Why I Should Not be a Romance Writer

There are a million reasons for this:

The first being that I am far too practical for big romance.

Do you know what I see WHEN I SEE CHISELED ABS?

I see a high-maintanance guy that I can’t bring it in me to write about (okay, MUCH, lol).

I see someone who will spend more time getting ready than I do.

I feel the pressure that it would take to “keep up” with that kind of person.

I think about not ordering dessert at restaurants because I’d feel like I always had to make the perfect healthy choice.

And yes, I get all of this from a book cover and think – I don’t even want to read that chiseled-ab book because I can’t imagine actually falling for that guy. And yes, I get that a good romance is all about the fantasy, but I don’t want that. I want to read something that’s just a shade off of reality, or maybe just reality, which is messy and imperfect but LASTS and feels REAL.

I’m pretty sure romance authors aren’t supposed to feel this way ๐Ÿ˜‰


I think the whole idea of that show is insane and ridiculous. I don’t get it. Let’s even look past how staged the whole thing is, and how the people on that show are really just looking to be on TV, it is still just baffling to me.ย 


This is something that I’ve seen done so well, but I’ll take the broken guy every day.


The reality is that 90% of bad boys will end up at the defendant’s table in a courtroom. Let’s say it’s for something small, and the guy has to do like two weeks in jail. Do you know what that does to a paycheck? If my husband (or myself) suddenly made half in one month than normal, we’d be playing catchup on that fallout for months. And there’s nothing about that scenario I find appealing. Which brings me to my next point:


I’m biased, I’m sure. And EVERYONE is allowed mistakes. EVERYONE. But I read a review the other day that was like – “I can’t believe you made a hardened criminal who did hard time so damn sexy.”

Um… Hardened criminal? Hard time? Doesn’t do it for me. I’ll take it in a story like this one b/c he’s more broken, than hardened…


I keep reading (or skim-reading) these wildly popular series, and the relationships are so dysfunctional, I just… I can’t. On top of that, I don’t get it. Of course my personal bias plays in to this, OF COURSE IT DOES, lol. And that’s fine.

It does make me wonder if I should even attempt to keep writing romance because I’m worried I’m far too practical… ๐Ÿ˜‰


Published by Jolene Perry

Hiker. Occasional Yogi. Equestrian. Couch potato. Music lover. Mediocre guitar player. Sailor. Tailor. Home body. Traveler. Enjoys suffering from being interested in everything. Co-founder and instructor at Waypoint Author Academy. Rep'd by Amy Bishop of Dystel, Goderich, and Bourret.

11 thoughts on “Why I Should Not be a Romance Writer

  1. You’re so not alone… Some of us * like* to read practical romance… Which makes me think of Mav and Jen…lol

    And can I just say… Enough with the man nipple covers… I don’t find that muscle head look at ALL inticing… But my celebrity crush is Joseph Gordon Levitt sooooooooo I guess that explains a lot…

    1. I KNOW ON THE NIPPLES! Sigh. They’re everywhere, staring at me off the book-shelves at Target…
      And YES to Mav and Jen. We should chat about them THIS FRIDAY. WHEN WE’RE TOGETHER. IN LA.
      my guys?
      Joseph Gordon Levitt, Justin Long, Zach Braff, and that guy who played Q on the last James Bond movie. Also, Justin Timberlake ๐Ÿ˜‰

  2. This is *exactly* how I feel. Give me broken. I love broken. It gives me something to work on.

  3. I’m with you. It’s why I have a struggle writing fantasy as well, as much as I love it, because my brain is just a little too grounded in reality. My all-time fave novel is such because the hero is entirely broken in so many ways. I don’t get certain books (cough*fiftyshades*cough) that glorify violence toward a woman (mental, emotional, etc) as sexy – and how many women buy into that. If it were your sister/friend/daughter in that relationship, you wouldn’t find it or the man sexy at all and would be begging her to get out. Like you, my personal bias plays into that, but how can anyone NOT be biased against abuse??? lol

    1. LOL. I could go on a long rant over 50 Shades… ๐Ÿ˜‰ Right now I’m so bothered by high school students and college students loving these stories w/ HUGELY controlling male leads. I’m so afraid they’ll begin to think this is the norm… And even my one set of paranormals read more like contemporaries…

  4. I love it when you write a blog post I’ve been thinking about writing for a while lol. Don’t get me wrong, I love an alpha male, but I don’t love the “I will punch you if you look at my girl for longer than three seconds” guy and the girl who swoons over this behaviour because it’s “romantic”.

    It seems like nobody wants to read a book about realistic characters and relationships anymore. And there must be kinky/sometimes even violent sex for a book to be popular. :S

  5. I’ve never gotten into the Bachelor shows either. Maybe there’s a tiny chance, but I have my doubts that any of those situations will end up in true/lasting love.

    Did you read Labor Day? I read it years ago. Haven’t seen the movie. (Is it even out yet. Probably comes out Labor Day, huh. ๐Ÿ™‚ Anyways, loved the book, but man, wasn’t into the no quotation marks. Was weird.

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